In my recent article, “My Moon Shot Mission to Save Man Kind,” I quoted my colleague Randolph M. Nesse, M.D. who said, “If you could make male mortality rates the same as female rates, you would do more good than curing cancer.”  Some may be surprised by the statement, but for me and many men […]

I’ve been short all my life. From the time I started school I was the shortest boy in my class. My mother told me not to worry. “Your uncles are tall, I’m sure you’ll grow to be tall like them” Both she and my father were under 5 ½ feet tall and even in college […]

I was five years old when my uncle drove me to the mental hospital. I was confused and afraid. “Why do I have to go?” I asked Uncle Harry. He looked at me with his round face and kind eyes. “Your father needs you,” he said simply. “What’s the matter with him?” He turned away […]

            Being male for nearly 78 years, I’ve had a long time to think about what it means to have an XY pair of chromosomes and how I am alike and different from those who have an XX pair. I founded MenAlive following the birth of our first son, Jemal, on November 21, 1969. I […]

Millions of men are depressed and don’t know it. Millions of women are living with depressed men, but don’t know what to do. Men often take their irritability and anger out on the women and children they care most about and feel guilty, ashamed, and frustrated. Families live in confusion and pain because they don’t […]

Like most men, I was trained from an early age to be self-sufficient and strong. Part of that training is the reason men as a group live sicker and die sooner than women. For more than fifty years now it has been my mission to change this unhealthy paradigm. It is true for men and […]

Part 3 – The Happy Truth Tellers             In Part 1, I shared my joy and the birth of my first child in 1969 and the fears that I faced when I read the book Future Shock by Alvin Toffler the following year and later had my own vision where I saw the Ship of […]

            I was five years old when my uncle drove me to the mental hospital. I was confused and afraid.             “Why do I have to go?” I asked Uncle Harry.             He turned his head towards me and smiled. “Your father needs you.”             “What’s the matter with him?” I was beginning to cry, […]

Image by Matheus Ferrero “Today, many things indicate that we are going through a transitional period, when it seems that something is on the way out and something else painfully being born,” said the playwright and former Czech president Václav Havel. “It is as if something were crumbling, decaying, and exhausting itself—while something else, still […]

Part 1             When I was five years old my father took an overdose of sleeping pills and was committed to Camarillo State Mental Hospital. I grew up with an insatiable desire to understand what happened to my father and terrified it would happen to me. I went to college, got married, had children, earned […]

Recent research shows that the divorce rate is at a 40-year low, unless you are over fifty. “Younger married couples are less likely to split up, but ‘gray’ divorces among older couples are on the rise,” according to Jo Craven McGinty, a columnist for The Wall Street Journal. According to the Pew Research Center, the […]

Old stereotypes would have us believe that women are more focused on relationships than men, but I have found that is not true, though men and women do see marriage through different lenses. A loving, intimate, and joyful marriage is just as important to men as it is to women. It is also just as […]

As the U.S. election nears and the Coronavirus continues to infect more than 50,000 Americans a day, the one question we must ask ourselves is this: Which man will truly protect and serve us? When faced with complex social problems that are difficult to understand and solve, it’s human nature to cling to our group. […]

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I was introduced to Father Earth in 1993 and wrote about my experience in an article, “The Resurrection of Father Earth and the Return of True Partnership Between Men and Women.” Since then my life has never been the same. When Clarissa Pinkola Estes, author of Women Who Run With The Wolves, offered her poem, […]

Thanks for your question. To get an erection, lots of things need to work together: Good blood flow to your penis Good nerve signaling to your penis  Normal hormone balance Other things such as stress (physical or emotional), mood, and use of substances such as alcohol or marijuana can affect your ability to get an […]

If you believe we are facing a global climate crisis, increasing threats of war, and endless political conflict no matter who becomes our next President, you are rightly concerned about our future. I recently returned from the library, usually, a place of comfort and calm. I checked out the “new book” shelf and found End […]

Like most of the things I write about, Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS) comes from both my personal and professional experience. Professionally, I’ve counseled more than 25,000 individuals and couples who took my IMS quiz and recognized that male anger was a problem in their lives. Personally, IMS nearly destroyed my marriage. Here’s an excerpt from […]

Let’s face it, we all are experiencing a fair amount of tension and stress as we begin the new year and new decade. We all have the usual stresses at home and at work dealing with life. But we’re also facing significant changes outside our personal lives. In the U.S. we’re dealing with the impeachment […]

Let me go on record and declare myself. I believe the MeToo Movement is good for women and men. I believe that men are good, but many are confused and angry. I believe that we must end the polarization of the left and right or humanity is in danger of destroying itself. I have five […]